A New Era of Boundary Setting

We are living in dystopic times, to say the least. To be in the present is to live mentally in the future, fearing the consequences of a pandemic whose potential for destruction is vast. For now, many of us are doing our best to heed the warnings from other countries...

The Focus Should Be On Consent, Not Sexual Assault

A consensual encounter where a young woman is kissing another young woman lovingly on the forehead Sexual coercion has been on my mind a lot lately. And one thing I’m realizing is we don’t talk about it enough. Which makes sense–it’s an uncomfortable topic, and...

Girls–It’s Okay to be Rejected

I like you. Do you like me? Yes? No? It isn’t just boys who need to learn to hear the word “no.” I’m at a high school teaching our IMPACT:Ability program. We’re about 6 weeks into the program, so we’re starting to address some more uncomfortable topics. This week...

Safety Tips for Women, Revised

“Don’t talk to strangers.” “Don’t walk alone at night.” “Use your keys as a weapon.” If you live in a body that society views as vulnerable, you have probably been the recipient of many safety tips. Often these are well-meaning, but too often they are also...

Timing is Everything

  I just completed IMPACT Boston’s 20-hour women’s core self-defense course. I’ve wanted to take one of these courses ever since the 1990s but I didn’t for a myriad of reasons. To say that I had one of the most physically and emotionally grueling 20-hour...