Note from the ED: Adaptive Sports Abuse Prevention

In 2017, at the height of the #MeToo movement, it was near impossible to look at the news without seeing a story about sexual abuse in sports. Whether it was an image of Larry Nassar in a prison jumpsuit or brave Olympic gymnast survivors finally being believed and...

On Working with Young Men

Teaching IMPACT skills to a group of young men who don’t really know what they are getting themselves into can feel like a wobbly tight rope walk. Young men come into our classes being told messages that haven’t been serving their safety for most of their lives and we...

Why I Launched #51donorsin51days

51 Donors in 51 Days Some birthdays are supposed to be milestones: 18, 21, 30, 50, 80, 100. Usually, it’s the ones that come with new legal rights or the ones you can divide by 10. I’ve been lucky to celebrate a lot of these, but there are times when other milestones...

Every “No” Is an Act of Repair 

For years I rested securely in the righteousness and rightness of phrases like, “No is a complete sentence” and “No means No”. I readily passed out these phrases when giving advice. These phrases are righteous. They are correct. But I was missing a step in my own...

Why take a self-defense class?

There is nothing to do after the final day of a Core class – our longest, most intense weekend class in which we pack 20 hours of training in between Friday night and Sunday – but rest and ruminate. Like a coach after an important match, I find myself replaying...

Note from the ED: Think Critically About Safety Advice

Someone Tells You Not to “Walk Like a Victim”? When I started teaching self-defense more than 20 years ago, I was told about a study that supposedly explained how attackers choose their victims. Video tapes of people walking down a crowded street in New York City were...

Dispatch from a Suit

When asked what I do for work, people are often entertained or surprised by my answer, which ranges from “I am a self-defense instructor at IMPACT Boston– we work within the model of Empowerment Self Defense, a feminist framework through which we teach everyday...